Dominance over desire


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Having been talking to some friends recently I feel the need to have a moan today about the number of fakes on the internet and especially within the swinging and BDSM lifestyles. I have a lot of friends who are professionals in the business and they often talk about bratty interlopers who call themselves princess and expect the world and every man in it to bow down to them and send tributes before even talking to them. According to these baby dommes, it is a case of respect yet they have done nothing to earn that respect other than putting a picture of their feet on Twitter. Then you have the other side of the coin, the ageing scorned subs who switch and call themselves a goddess, stealing subs and slating the professionals in this world. `Either way being disrespectful and rude to people who live and work in this industry may make these account holders feel big and clever but really it just makes them look small and petty. Ah and then there are the make-believe finsubs, or pay pigs, their account bio states they know their lack of worth and are just there to pay superior women but when said women respond to their tweet or message the pay pigs (or play pigs as they should be known as they are clearly playing games) they don’t respond. So the moral of the story is to do your research and expect to put in the effort if you want to work within that industry. Personally I’m glad I don’t have to worry about that and can just go about my debauched pass times.

Make sure to get your club and party reviews coming in, tell the world which are the best and worst swinging and BDSM venues that you have attended. Maybe you have found a hidden gem or have been disappointed by a well-known location, either way, tell the rest of the community.

“I went to Eureka at the weekend, I’ve not been before and was made to feel instantly comfortable. The dance floor was busy and the playrooms were lots of fun. I will definitely be returning and next time I think I will book to stay in one of the chalets – Amy”

Surgery is open, how can I help this week?


Hi Dr,

I am new the world of professional Domination and would like to find a mentor but am worried that most people will turn me away as they don’t want the competition. Do you think there are that would mentor?

Miss K

Well Miss K, congratulations on your new career. You will find that a lot will turn you away as they either don’t feel like they are a position to mentor or because they don’t want the pressure but you will also find many more who would be happy to help. Some experienced Dommes hold training sessions for a fee but the best way is to make connections either online or in person at parties and clubs. Attend clubs that have performances and demos to learn new skills and network with the Ladies in attendance. You will find that the majority of the industry will be supportive and will offer their assistance.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.

Right then party people, until next time – stay decadent!


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